Friday, January 2, 2009

The key to a happy marriage

Read a really really dull and boring book over the last 3 days. It was about some guy who was once divorced, currently married and having trouble, and falling for yet another woman while he was still married (rolling my eyes and blaming the Vicodin for making me read the whole thing!)

The basic premise was that he wanted a marriage like his parents, which had lasted both their lifetimes, and was having absolutely no success in staying happy in his own. He realizes that he enjoys only the chase, where everyone puts forth their best selves, is at their best behavior, cares a lot all the time. Once marriage happens, all that simply disappears. We are simply supposed to "know" that we are loved, there is no need to show it to the other person.

So he asks his mom, how did her and dad stay together so happily for so long. And she said,

You have to fall in love everyday! Treat each day as the first day you laid eyes on your loved one and lavish them with all the attention you can!

That is SO true! We start taking our loved ones for granted and that is the biggest mistake.
Fall in love everyday, and the excitement of the chase will stay with you forever! The freshness of new love will stay with you forever.

Now how to do this...that his mom didn't say :) Hehe :)

12 comments:

Vimal Gasper said...

Its like we need oil to keep the lamp burning but don't know where to find the oil. And, most often we don't realize how much we hurt the other person just because we aren't able to find sufficient oil to keep it burning...

Renu said...

very good and sane advice:)

I always believe that even if one is not vocal, love always shows in many ways:)

U have been awarded long back:)

Nitin said...

hahaha gud one.. closing line are the best part..

I am said...

he he..mushkil hai I to fall in love every hr :) rarely with the same thing :) each time though :)

aneri_masi said...

@vimal, I know, its tough :(

@renuDi, I saw that award! THANK YOU! I am trying to fix my blog to have another column to display my awards. Still struggling with it :(

aneri_masi said...

@nitin, hai na :)

@tanu, my guess is "mom" meant to not forget that you love this person! We so often do that! And to continue doing the extra special things for them every now and then. Hai na?

my space said...

Yeah we tend to take people for granted..it helps to show that you care...you need not verbalise it--though thats the easiest and most effective..--but it is tough to keep it going..

ceedy said...

HOW? wish I knew....

aneri_masi said...

@my space, yep...being consistent with it while going on with our own daily routine is the tough part.

@ceedy, if I ever find out HOW, i will let you know :)

Preeti said...

tatz what mumz r for...cryptic message givers on 'what to do'with no insight on 'how to do'...! ;)

Rakesh said...

'You have to fall in love everyday! Treat each day as the first day you laid eyes on your loved one and lavish them with all the attention you can!'

Not sure how to do that? Maybe if we suffer from Anterograde Amnesia (Short term memory loss - Ghajini), it would be a lot easier to fall in love with the same woman each day over and over again :P

Veens said...

so very very true@